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Curfews. Necessary for parents, yet often perceived as “evil” by teens. According to child psychologist Dr. Joseph Steiner, setting a curfew helps balance between giving teens freedom and keeping them safe [1].
Curfews help keep teens safe, healthy, and provide a sense of structure that allows them to gain independence and practice responsibility. Read on to understand the importance of teen curfews and how to set them effectively.
Why Curfews Are Important for Teenagers?
Curfews are set by both parents and the law. These are important to protect the safety, health, and wellness of teens. Legal curfews aim to keep vulnerable youth safe at night from community violence or crime, while parent curfews also aim to protect their mental health, sleep quality, and development.
Importance of Legal Curfews
Around 400 US cities enforce youth curfew ordinances, restricting minors from being in public places late at night alone (typically 10 pm on weekdays, and 11-12 pm on weekends) [2]. These curfew laws aim to:
- Reduce Crime: According to studies from the U.S. Department of Justice, teen curfews can reduce juvenile crime and victimization [3].
- Increases Safety: Unsupervised time late at night is associated with higher rates of risky behavior in youth, such as vandalism, reckless driving, and unsafe sex [4].
- Supports Parents: Legal curfews help reinforce parental boundaries, keeping youth safe.
Importance of Parent Curfews
Curfews set by parents play an important role in your teen’s health and development by promoting sleep, routine, and stability.
- Responsibility: Curfews teach teens time management, balance, self-control, and responsibility as they transition into adulthood.
- Structure: Curfews help build routines in teenagers and teach them to balance school, extracurricular activities, and their social time.
- Sleep: The National Sleep Foundation recommends teens get 8 to 9 hours of sleep a night. Curfews make sure teens are home at an ideal hour to prepare for rest.
- Social Courtesy: Curfews teach teens the importance of community and being considerate of others (e.g., avoiding disruption late at night).
- Parental Peace of Mind: Knowing your teen is home at a reasonable time can reduce worry in parents.
What About A Digital Curfew?
A digital curfew is a time limit on phones, TVs, computers, and other electronics. Have your teen unplug at least 1 to 2 hours before bedtime each night. Reducing screen time at night can increase melatonin production, making it easier to fall and stay asleep. This can help teens reduce morning exhaustion and improve academics.
Common Challenges with Teenagers and Curfews
When most teens hear the word curfew, they roll their eyes. Without clear explanations of why the curfew is being set, teens often feel that their independence or freedoms are challenged, sometimes leading to resentment. Common challenges with teens and curfews include:
- Rebellion: If teens feel like their freedom is being too restricted, they may intentionally break curfew or sneak out of the house.
- Demographics: Evidence found that white youth are less likely to face strict curfews, while black youth experience more legal enforcement and arrests for curfew violations [5]. This is mainly due to higher police presence in African American communities.
- Different Curfew Than Peers: Due to the diversity of family, culture, and demographics, teens may have different rules to follow or curfew times than their peers, which may cause pushback.
- Inconsistent Parenting: Parents may struggle to enforce curfews, rules, or consequences consistently, which can lead to confusion and teens not taking curfews seriously.
- Impact on Social Life: Curfews may limit the time teens have to connect with friends, go to social events, or engage in extracurricular activities.
What Works: Effective Strategies for Setting Curfews
Teens often become resistant to curfews if they are not clearly explained or if your teen does not understand the reason behind them. There are a few strategies to effectively set curfews and encourage your teen to follow them.
- Explain Why: Explain to your teen what your goals are for setting a curfew, such as protecting sleep and safety. Coming home and going to bed at 2 am every weekend can impact mental health, and physical security can be at risk.
- Check Local Laws: Research your city’s laws on curfew for minors to make sure the curfew you set aligns with the local ordinances.
- Make Them Age-Appropriate: Gradually increase curfew time as your teen grows and gains more responsibility. A 13-year-old middle schooler and a working 17-year-old senior in high school warrant different curfew times.
- Be Flexible: Curfew may differ on weekdays or weekends, depending on your teen’s schedule. Be flexible about this and teach your teen to balance their freedom with responsibility. Have a process in place for them to text you if they are going to be late for curfew (e.g., had to walk or drive a friend home after practice). This teaches them open communication, increases trust, and eases your nerves.
- Set Consequences: If your teen breaks curfew without letting you know what’s up, or outright disregards it, address this and set reasonable consequences. For example, if they miss curfew one weekend, take away car privileges for the following weekend.
What to Avoid When Setting a Teen Curfew
Avoid being overly rigid or controlling. Remember, curfews are about safety and teaching responsibility. Not control. Avoid setting unreasonable curfews, and make them age-appropriate. Keep in mind the individual needs of your teen (work schedule, traffic if they drive, more responsibility = more freedom).
Communication Tips: Talking About Rules
When speaking with your teen about curfew and rules in general, approaching the conversation with respect, openness, active listening, and collaboration can increase effectiveness and reduce power struggles. Below are a few tips:
- Have conversations with them in a private and calm environment when your teen is relaxed and engaged.
- Explain rules, the reasoning behind them, and how they contribute to your teen’s safety, health, or success.
- Ask them for their input on the rules and listen actively, even if you don’t agree. This can make them feel like their opinions are heard and valued.
- Negotiate with them when appropriate. Discuss rules and adjust them based on maturity or circumstances.
- Use positive language. Frame rules positively by focusing on safety, growth, and earned freedoms rather than just restrictions.
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Sources
[1] Sunshine, A. 2024. Curfew For Teens: How to Set A Curfew Time for Your Teenager. Your Teen Mag.
[2] National Youth Rights Association. Curfew Laws By State.
[3] US Department of Justice. Curfews Prevent Juvenile Crime and Victimization.
[4] D. L. (2018). Out-of-School Time and Behaviors During Adolescence. Journal of research on adolescence: the official journal of the Society for Research on Adolescence, 28(2), 284–293.
[5] NPR. 2011. Curfews: Crime Fighting Or Racial Profiling?
Austin Davis, LPC-S
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Originally from the Saginaw, Eagle Mountain area, Austin Davis earned a Bachelor of Science in Pastoral Ministry from Lee University in Cleveland, TN and a Master of Arts in Counseling from The Church of God Theological Seminary. He then went on to become a Licensed Professional Counselor-Supervisor in the State of Texas. Austin’s professional history includes both local church ministry and clinical counseling. At a young age, he began serving youth at the local church in various capacities which led to clinical training and education. Austin gained a vast knowledge of mental health disorders while working in state and public mental health hospitals. This is where he was exposed to almost every type of diagnosis and carries this experience into the daily treatment.
Austin’s longtime passion is Clearfork Academy, a christ-centered residential facility focused on mental health and substance abuse. He finds joy and fulfillment working with “difficult” clients that challenge his heart and clinical skill set. It is his hope and desire that each resident that passes through Clearfork Academy will be one step closer to their created design. Austin’s greatest pleasures in life are being a husband to his wife, and a father to his growing children. He serves at his local church by playing guitar, speaking and helping with tech arts. Austin also enjoys being physically active, reading, woodworking, and music.
